How to Beak Up With Your Long-Distance Girlfriend or Boyfriend

I love being in love and having someone dependable in my corner. However, it seems so much easier to be supportive when you are farther away. You love talking about them and you love the the time together when they come visit you. Now listen you need to break-up right away and not take this any longer. You know it and you've thought about it before and that hard part is when is the right time to do it. Here is how to do it and then why this is the right thing to do.

I Need help Breaking up With your Long-Distance Girlfriend/Boyfriend

Get your strategy tight, very tight. Think about your X-in-the-making behavior and use it against them. Pick a date to do this and start creating your list of why this relationship needs to end. You do not even have to worry about them popping by your place. The long distance is your advantage point. Don't take any calls or text from them at all until you have finally decided you are ending it (very important)!

Set aside a block of time with them and set aside a generous amount of time to have this talk. If they do not answer, then leave a message with a specific time and date. Whatever time you pick make it a time that offers a lot of privacy. Don't answer any communication from them at all before then. They will call at the given time. When it is time for the call don't have any distractions at all. Do it in a quiet place with good reception and bring your list with you.

Pack their stuff in a box, kindly and gently because that is the least you could do. After all, you're a good person but you've got to move on. Do not wait until the next visit to break-up, not after they've spent money to see you.

The Reasons Why You are Breaking Up:

You've cheated and the truth is so have they. Even if you don't want that picture in your head its true. You've done it long-term with some or one and you still enjoy them.

You're really only in it because you feel obligated. Do you really want to know who it feels to be the one who let a relationship carry on only to watch them move to year and start over (Oh, they are moving to you right, you're not taking any chances).

It just easier to be in a long-distance relationship isn't it. You get to be dependable, sweet, loving, and there, without the pressure of a person who is "really there".

Oh and don't forget that just like you, she/he has a nice sexy bodied, shoulder to cry on and have their back. Just like you. If you don't believe me then send out a text or better yet call your local friend, they always answer your calls. So don't worry you've both got a few, local, willing and available, shoulders to curl-up under.

Deployment - Part 2 - Adjusting to Life on Your Own

By Keri E Smith Keri E Smith
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Keri Smith is a writer, mother of two, wife of an army soldier with a background in Human Resources and Recruitment. She writes her humorous ...

As I said in Part 1, I moved home to live with my parents during our first deployment. If you have thoughts about moving in with your family or even a friend, be forewarned...any drama they have in their lives WILL spill over in to yours. Do you need even more stress? Do you get along with this person even when you are in bad moods? These are valid questions to ask yourself. Don't let people talk you in to doing something you are unsure of. A year is a long time to be stuck somewhere. The second deployment, I stayed put, although this is when my dad moved in with me, which, as you will read, was a darn good thing. I had help when I needed it, but he stayed out of the way when I didn't. Plus, it was my house and my terms, which helped the control-freak that I am.

Communication: Make sure you and your spouse are prepared for the fact that you might be able to talk daily, or not for weeks at a time. It can make you a little crazy when you don't know if he is okay, but you need to stay calm and remember that no news is good news. I guarantee you that he is more upset at not being able to reach you. He's in the desert..not out bar-hopping. Chances are, he will have the opportunity to get in far less trouble than you would....not that you would. But you have to remember he will hear all kinds of stories about what is happening back home, as will you, and this may cause some tension. Cell phones are a bad idea and very dangerous. Use this as a time to get to know each other again. You are going to be doing a lot of talking, so you might discover some things you didn't know. We paid about $60 a month for Andy to have internet in his "room" and we talked on Yahoo IM webcam every night about 10pm. Another source is Skype. This was a nice option because then we could see each other. As it can make you crazy to NOT talk to each other, it can have the same effect if you talk TOO much. You run out of things to say about your day when you have already told him the day before. And it makes time go entirely too slow. Every three days is a good rule of thumb, if he is available. Don't ever discuss locations, etc...over the internet or the phone. Always assume that someone is listening in, and that someone might be a threat.

Speaking of threats...don't advertise the fact you are home alone by putting a Service Star Flag on your house. A yellow ribbon is general enough to blend in, yet not announcing to be robbed or attacked. Likewise, don't put the "Half my heart is in Iraq" bumper-stickers on your car for the same reason. We can support our soldiers in all the other things we do, but the most important thing you can do for your husband is be safe.

Have a talk with your husband about how to handle any bad news with the family or other friends while he is deployed. Does he want to know while he is gone, or wait until he comes home? We were tested with this several time. During the first deployment, I was in 4 car accidents and Taylor was hospitalized. During the second deployment, our dog killed our cat and I had to have the dog put to sleep. This was a horrific day, and had my dad not been there to shield me from seeing it, then the kids and I would have walked in to that scene after work/school. We also got news that Andy's stepfather was terminally ill and might not make it until he redeployed home. Make sure you have the information for the Red Cross, because chances are that you might very well have to get a message to him.

The last thing is that you want to stay as busy as possible during the deployment. Use this time to explore your interests. Is there somewhere you want to travel that he doesn't? Go visit a girlfriend or family member. Take a class or lesson. You can also look forward to your mid-way point, which is R&R for two weeks. This will be a fun break. Ask your spouse what they want to do...don't just plan a big party or trip. They may just want to sit on the sofa with you, and not do anything. You need to keep in mind, they may be a little jumpy. It's not a good idea to drink too much during this break either. Have an enjoyable time with him, and when he leaves to go back, know that you are almost done!

Keri Smith is a writer, mother of two, wife of an army soldier and full-time government employee. She writes her humorous blog, "The Glamorous Life of An Army Wife", telling her stories about raising children, giving tips to other military spouses, and general insights on motherhood and parenting a child with Asperger's Syndrome. She also contributes to DivineCaroline, and discusses her great loves, food and traveling. http://theglamourouslifeofanarmywife.blogspot.com/

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Helpful Tips for Surviving Away From Family and Friends

Living abroad, whether to study, work, volunteer, or just experience life in a foreign land is undoubtedly an enriching endeavour. Encountering new cultures, languages, food, and friends is all exciting but you still might find yourself dialing internationally to connect with those you miss.

Keeping in touch with friends and family is a good thing, and you shouldn't be discouraged from keeping loved ones updated, but it's easy to feel detached whilst spending time abroad. As an expat myself, I can definitely offer some tips to feel connected in a foreign country.

1. Study the local language as often as possible - This includes studying language books, listening to recorded lessons in the language of your adoptive country, and practicing your skills in public. There are many language programmes available online if you don't have time to attend a classroom-based course. Try to learn the names of the foods so that you can practice interacting in restaurants and supermarkets.

2. Join a group for expats - While it's not a good idea to only mix socially with expats, it's nice to have a group of people who share common concerns and experiences relating to your new country. There are many expat groups in major cities around the world that can be found through an internet search. While many expat groups are 'online only' forums you should be able to find a group that meets regularly in the 'real world'. Such groups will make you feel less alone and you're likely to meet new friends from an array of countries.

3. Immerse yourself in local culture - Try new food, attend local festivals (even if you don't understand the language!), travel around your host country in order to learn more about society, and visit local historical museums.

4. Call home even if you have to dial internationally - Email and instant messaging are great ways to keep in touch with loved ones back home but nothing beats good old-fashioned on-to-one personal international calls.

5. Visit your native country's embassy - Embassies aren't just the places you go to if your passport has been stolen! They are great resources which have been put in place to assist expats with everything from finding a doctor who speaks your language to social networking. Keep in mind, however, that not all embassies are created equal - some will offer more services than others.

Adapting to life in a new country can be exciting yet challenging. The key to settling in comfortably lies in a balance between keeping in touch with loved ones abroad and assimilating as best as possible to your new surroundings. If you follow these tried and tested tips you'll adapt to your new surroundings without the urge to make expensive international calls home every night!

If you're looking to make cheap international calls to Bangladesh, India or Pakistan you should look for an international call provider that offers cheap local rates. Services like SimpleCall will help you save lots of cash - even if you're roaming!

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