Showing posts with label Successful. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Successful. Show all posts

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Six Commandments Of A Successful Long Distance Relationship

Almost every one at one point or another has experienced a long distance relationship. Most people have come out it scarred, some for life. Very few people actually get to have a successful long distance relationship....have you ever wondered why it is so.

Well I'm here to tell you it is possible, I mean very possible to have a successful long distance relationship

Long distance relationships have a way of sneaking up on you sometimes....sometimes when you least expect it. It can occur for a lot reasons, for example you met someone in a chat room and before you know it you guys connected somehow and you hit it off from there, but by the time you two realized you were thousands of miles apart...it was already too late....you were already in love.

Or it could be that you have just been promoted at work and it will require that you be moved to another city or another country entirely

So the question now is...WHAT DO YOU DO. Well I happen to have the answer to that question. Yes long distance relationships have advantages and disadvantages but that does not mean that it is entirely out of the options.

One of the advantages of a long distance relationship is it gives time to slowly open up the relationship, there is time to get to know one another, slowly build and develop a solid foundation. You don't to get be around the person all the time and see all their habits and routines that can get pretty repetitive

However, a major disadvantage of a long distance relationship is that there won't be the hugging and kissing, you may not be able to connect like you would want to because you don't have eye contact and you can't touch. At first it might be difficult but I promise you will find a balance, have genuine interest in each other and you are on your way to happiness.

Now here are a number of rules that can help you have a healthy long distance relationship

HAVE A PLAN FOR THE FUTURE
First things first, know what you both want, know where you are headed. Be sure to plan and make sure you both know what you want out of the relationship. It will make absolutely no sense if you both go into a relationship that you know deep down in your heart that you have no intention whatsoever of going anywhere with it. So be sure you both want the same thing.

COMMUNICATE REGULARLY
Try as much as you can to see each other...at least once every month, always make sure that you plan this ahead and be sure to include a lot of activities, visit lots of fun places...like museums, parks, the movies, have a weekend at a fancy hotel and try as much as possible to make every second count because....believe me...it does...and soon you will learn to look forward to these meeting...you will live for these meetings.

MAKE HONESTY YOU NUMBER RULE
Open your self up completely, write what you really feel in your emails, be sure not to leave anything out, use email communication to really express yourself, reason is that writing is more intense and it allows you to be more intimate, that way you can really bond, and of course don't forget to be honest, do not pretend to be who you are not, long distance relationships thrives only on honesty.

USE THE LATEST TECHNOLOGIES TO COMMUNICATE
Be sure to have the latest modes of communication, get an email account if you do not already have one.

Get Skype, that way you can actually get to see each other and even see a movie together if you want.

You can also use the instant messenger system

You can also get a webcam if you do not have one

All these communication tools will make your relationship a lot less like what it seems...a long distance relationship where you don't get to see one another.

SEND GIFTS ONCE IN A WHILE
Be sure to send your partner something personal every once in a while, it could be a anything from a gift to a written letter, but send something that will prove to your partner that you truly exist and that your indeed a living breathing person, that way you both will feel more intimate

HAVE FAITH
Of course people are going to tell you that long distance relationships are no good...

Don't you believe it. Have faith in yourself and have faith in your partner, believe in your heart that you can make it work.

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Saving A Long Distance Relationship - The 5 Keys To A Successful Long Distance Relationship

I'm here to answer all of your questions about saving a long distance relationship. Are you in a stressful long distance relationship? Are things not quite going as you both planned? Is it getting harder and harder to trust one another? All of these things are common when it comes to trying to make a long distance relationship work. If you answered yes to all those questions then you definitely came to the right place. I am going to give you five keys to saving a long distance relationship. You have to really care for someone to even start a relationship from miles away or remain in a relationship when it's going to become long distance. I'm sure this article is going to better your situation and enhance the passion between you too even if it's from many miles away.

Key #1

Making time to talk every day is the most important thing you can do for you long distance relationship. You have to set time aside every single day to talk to your partner. Even if it's just for an hour; it's crucial to keep the closeness of the relationship going. Don't pick a time when you're on your way somewhere or have any kinds of distractions. All a distracted environment will do is make your partner feel unimportant and ignored. Not being able to be close to one another is hard on both of you so it's very essential to insure that there is no confusion about what your priorities are

Key #2

Over communicating is another good practice when you are in a long distance relationship. It's hard to trust in the fact that your love isn't out there creeping behind your back. Communicating the little details will help eliminate this problem drastically. Make sure you know each others schedules and all the little daily routines that you both due. A simple text once you've left work and got home goes a long way. Sharing your frustration about the traffic or an issue at work is just as important as the major things that go on in your life whether its losing your job or the loss of a loved one. You have to treat all conversations as you would if you were living under the same roof.

Key #3

Just because you aren't in the same state doesn't mean you can't go on romantic dates from time to time. Set up times to watch the same movie and discuss it over the phone with one another. Find an online game you too can play together; it's amazing how much fun it can be. The advances in technology are infinite, there's Skype, AIM, texts, picture messaging, and the list goes on. There are all these different ways to communicate and even see one another. Web chat dates are awesome it makes you feel so much closer to them and gives you the opportunity to talk face to face. This keeps having the "out of sight, out of mind" mentality completely out of the picture. This way if there are any feelings floating around about the eye to eye contact the long distance dates will definitely help in saving a long distance relationship.

Key #4

In high school it was always nice to get a note from that special someone or even just from a best friend. Adapt that system and make it your own. Email has made it so easy to be lazy and make us forget that we know how to use a pen and paper. Write them a letter telling them why you love them and what saving a long distance relationship like yours means to you. Seeing your hand writing and smelling your scent on the paper will immediately make them feel right next to you. It creates a sort of excitement waiting for them to get the letter and then anticipating the reply in the mail. It's wonderful what the different forms of communication will do for how you feel about each other as well as the closeness you feel.

Key #5

Last but certainly not least; saving a long distance relationship takes an optimistic mind. You cannot get negative and spend time repeating over and over that you miss each other and how hard this is. You have to remind each other how much you love each other and how this long distance is worth it. Tell them that you'll see each other soon. Also make sure you're making plans to see one another. Southwest Airlines is very affordable so there is always a way to make it work. Show them that you're going to do whatever it takes to make your long distance relationship survive.

The 5 keys mentioned above are very effective and will work wonders for anyone interested in saving a long distance relationship. But some situations may call for more unconventional tactics that are guaranteed to work. But these secrets are proven to work so well at saving a long distance relationship that they have been labeled as controversial and even dangerous if used by individuals with ill intentions. So before I share with you the secret weapon let me first say that this is NOT for stalkers, ex convicts, people with severe mental problems or other crazies, cuckoos or whack jobs. If you do not fit into one of the above categories then I invite you to consider the statement below.