Showing posts with label Trust. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Trust. Show all posts

Saturday, April 23, 2011

Long Distance Relationship Advice - 3 Ways to Build Trust

I think we can all agree that trust in a standard relationship is crucial, but in a long distance relationship it can become the single most important factor in determining long term success. My long distance love advice is fairly unassuming: I have a pretty open approach to Trust in my relationship as I knew early on that all of the effort and love I put in could be destroyed by a single moment of mistrust. I built trust in the beginning stages and I think its important to share all the ways I did...

Three great ways to build trust from the beginning of you long distance relationship are:

Reliability. If you say you're going to call at 9pm call at 9pm. If you say your going to travel to see your partner the second weekend in May you had better clear your schedule to go see your partner the second weekend in May. Be very careful with your promises. Make sure you have free time to call your partner or have planned out other promises you make. Punctuality and being reliable are incredibly important. Your partner needs to know that you are dedicated and will always do what you say you will do.

Communication. Speak openly about building trust. It isn't a bad thing to tell you partner up front that, "I think building trust will be one of the most important parts of our relationship.". I have openly told my partner that ex's have called me or texted me and then said, "I just wanted you to know that it isn't an issue and you're the only thing on my mind". Routine communication will build strong bound between you and your partner.

Be expressive. Being expressive will let your partner know what is on your mind. Your thoughts and feelings should be openly shared with your partner. The more expressive you are the more in tune your partner will be with where you are at in your relationship and the less they will worry. So let you partner know how you are feeling. Be open. Let them know your ups and downs. It will lead to better communication as well as a more loving and trusting relationship.

I really hope this will help in your LDR's. I can't stress how important the trust part of your relationship will be. I think it is best to get out in front and get all of this out of the way early. Let me know what you think in the comments.

Monday, February 21, 2011

Long Distance Relationship Trust

Handling a relationship and keeping it going smooth all your life is a difficult task and when you attach long distance with the relationship, it becomes all the more difficult to manage it. Dating someone who lives miles away from you is not easy as it seems. You miss your partner whenever you are happy or sad. You miss telling him interesting stories and most important you don't know if your partner is loyal to you and what he is doing behind your back.

Sometimes during the initial stages of the relationship, the bond is so strong that you can easily trust your partner if he is sitting miles away. But often due to something that happened in the past, your trust in your partner is not that strong and you find it difficult to trust him when he is staying away from you.

What can you do to build trust in a long distance relationship? Here are some tips to help you make your bond stronger while you stay apart.

Make regular calls to each other: Fix a time for call each day. Make sure you call up your partner at that time. You can even fix days when you should call and when your partner must call. If you follow the timings, you would be sure of receiving the call of your partner.

Talk to him about your entire day and ask him about his: When you are not staying in the same country, you don't know the routine of your partner. Share your personal routine and details about what all happened today. Sharing such small details keeps you connected with each other and you feel closer to each other. Also you do not miss sharing minute details with your partner.

Talk about people in your life: You must have made new friends or colleagues. Both the partners must include the names of all those related with their lives in their conversation. Even if you feel that your partner would feel insecure, you must speak about it because it will make your partner trust you even more. The more honest you are, the more your partner will trust you.

Give random calls and messages: On days when you cannot talk at specified time, give your partner a call to inform about the same. Also making random calls once a week and messaging during the day will make your partner feel that you are thinking about him. This is a good way of developing more trust in your relationship.

Meet each other over the weekend: Make plans of visiting each other over the weekend or spending vacations together. This helps strengthen the bond and also eliminates any doubt of you spending more time with some one else.

Do not cheat: It is important to not think about cheating on your partner simply because he/she isn't there to check on you. It is also about your integrity. Think about you being cheated by your partner in the same way. Even if you have to make a new partner, break-up with the current one first to go ahead with the new one. Do not indulge in first dating the second one and then telling the fist one about break-up.