Saving a Long Distance Relationship: Man Vs Distance

Saving a long distance relationship is tough. You can't follow the usual tactics of winning back an ex because of distance and sometimes language and culture.

Here are some tested ways to help you save your relationship:

Step 1- Give Her Space

You need to give your ex (or soon to be ex) between 2 - 4 weeks of no contact. The time will vary, depending on your situation, but it has to be longer than 2 weeks. This also means that if she initiates contact with you before the 2 weeks are up, you can't reply. You'll have to wait for her to contact you a second time.

Now the key is that you have to wait for her to initiate contact with you. If she doesn't contact you after 4 weeks, you have to be even more patient and wait it out for 2 months.

If you still haven't heard from her after 2 months, skip to Step 5

Step 2- So She Contacted You

With long distance relationships, she either contacted you through email, phone, text, or left you a note through instant messenger. (By the way, you should have deleted her from all of your social networks).

If she calls, answer the phone and sound positive. Explain to her that it's so good to hear from her and that everything is good with you but you have to run and you'll call her back in a couple of days.

Just modify it if she initiated contact with you through other mediums. Remember to keep it short..really short, and tell her that you'll contact her back in a few days.

Step 3- Wait It Out... Again

Yes, wait it out for her to contact you again. This is a critical tipping point. If she does contact you, at least you have an idea that she is still thinking about you. If she doesn't contact you within 3 months, skip to Step 5

Step 4- Like Good Old Times

If you're ex has contacted you a second time, set up some time for you to chat, either by phone or instant messenger. Act like your breakup NEVER happened and try to remember the vibe you had when you both first felt sparks with each other. This is the vibe you want to try to recreate again.

If this doesn't rekindle your relationship, go back to Step 1 and repeat the process.

Step 5- One Last Shot

So if nothing is working, you can try out this trick. Send your ex a gift on a special day such as her birthday, graduation, promotion, or holiday. Not just any gift, but something unique and simple that only you know that she will like.

Think out of the box and try to remember back from old conversations.

Did she talk about favorite author, fashion accessory or travel destination that she wishes to go someday. If so, send her a book for her birthday on this travel destination.

If she has a favorite dish, think about a cookbook or specialized cooking class. These are just some examples that I have seen work. The rest is up to you.

Do not give it to her in person, make sure you mail it or have a delivery service get it to her. If you found out that she did receive it, go back to step 1 and wait it out again for at least 2 weeks.

This is just one of the many techniques to winning back your lost love.