What if you fell in love with someone who lived hundreds of miles away? What if there were no dates, goodnight kisses, or trial sex before the relationship began? What if you couldn't keep tabs on them every day and make sure they were being faithful? I'm guessing you'd probably lose your mind! Long Distance relationships really aren't that bad though. I honestly think that starting a relationship that is long distance can be better than beginning it while close together. I say that because you really do get the opportunity to get to know and love the person with all the complications that dates, sex, and other people bring into the mix. You get the chance to know their insides and really build your relationship on a deeper connection that looks way beyond the physical.
If you can't survive being apart for long periods of time, then your relationship won't last anyways. Of course it's nice to go out and have fun together and cuddle up to watch movies but how well do you really know your boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you trust them with no questions asked? Most couples, especially nowadays, have a lot of trouble staying committed and trusting one another. Why is it like that though? Trust is such a huge factor because you spent so much time having "horizontal fellowship" (sex) instead of really getting to know each other for who you are.
Those of you already in long distance relationships just know that I have a lot of respect for you because I know what it takes. You have to almost over communicate with each other for things to go smoothly and you have to have confidence in yourself and faith in your partner. Please don't waste time wondering what they're doing and who they're with. If they've communicated it to you already you have to believe that and not let your friends or thoughts make you think any different. I make reference to my own relationship a lot because it had a lot go into to be the force that it is now. My boyfriend and I actually started dating over the phone. Granted we were best friends prior to him moving and us falling in love but we made it work. Going to high school together and knowing a lot of the same people. You can only imagine the haters we had, and we didn't even start talking on a level like that until college. People don't like to see the impossible work so just know that there's always going to be someone trying to get in your head and steer you away from what you two have going. I saved money and visited when I could and eventually God made it possible for me to move to Albuquerque. Trust for us is a non-issue; for the sole reason that our long distance period was so successful due to our over communication. No one was able to be like, "Hey I saw Jazmine at this place with this person" and he wasn't already aware. Everyone has someone out there for them. If you've started a long distance relationship with someone then they must mean a great deal to you because that's a hard decision to make. Don't let other people' and reckless thoughts break you guys up. Be strong and let me be an example to you that it DOES work! "True love doesn't mean being inseparable; it means being separated and nothing changes."
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